If My BF were to write to ann landers…

It might look like this:

Help! My girlfriend is an anti-corporate environmentalist buddhist yogi interested in vegan and raw food. She doesn’t watch TV and she never gets my pop culture references. She is monogamous with me but remains close friends with her several x-boyfriends and sees no problem with that. I find it odd. I like Motley Crue, art, sports, golf, shopping, dolce and gabbana, travel and fine cuisine. Sometimes I tell her she’s so pretty I I want to suck her eyes right out of her sockets and she laughs her head off. However, I have no idea what she is talking about half the time. I sometimes offend her by accident and she gets really upset. What do I do?

It’s funny really. How different we seemingly are.

I am learning things from him and I know he is learning things from me. I see both subtle and vast changes in him already as a result of my influence, and I see changes in myself too.

That aside though, It’s clear that food is one thing we connect over. I was considering becoming vegan in the new year and I’ve since decided against it. Partly this is because being a flexi-vegan makes more sense at this point so I can transition myself into veganism mentally. Also it means I can continue to learn about nutrition and how to actually do it effectively before making some grand statement of my commitment to being vegan. Thirdly, it gives me more time to convince him to join me (who is diabetic and could probably really benefit from a vegan diet anyway.) Dude can seriously cook, and having him on my vegan team would be wicked sweet.

Partly I admit, it is related to him that I am not doing it at this point. He has all these restaurants he wants to take me with Michelin ratings and stuff. He knows all the details about the chefs and the menus. He’s got a serious knowledge and interest in cooking and food. Seriously, you should see the stuff he whips up for me for breakfast. It’s not just delicious, it’s beautiful. Like he makes it all pretty. And if I were vegan, I couldn’t eat a lot of that stuff. But those are selfish reasons and I know in the end, I will make my move to go through with a more vegan-centric diet. I will take the leap eventually. But for now, flexi-vegan is ok.

When we travel to England and Rome in March (ahem… holding my breath in excitement) I want to have freedom with my culinary explorations.

So for now, I will just keep careful about my food choices as much as I am ready for, and eventually I will be ready mentally, spiritually, and physically to go full vegan. I have strong attachment to some dairy foods and it’s gonna take some work to get over that. My conviction and resolve just aren’t strong enough yet to be a vegan in a non vegan world/culture yet. Are there any vegans reading this? Any flexi-vegans? Advice for me? Bozena my nutritionist friend, do you see it as possible to be nutritionally sound and vegan?

Unrelatedly, why on earth do I live in Canada? It is SO FLIPPING COLD here. Waiting for the bus feels a little like a cold version of hell. I took this pic today for Project 365 (a pic a day for 2010).